You set up a profile, pick some cute photos, write something witty about the things that you love (Beyonce, Hillary Clinton, Battlestar Galactica), list some books you like, and then sit back, kick your feet up, and wait for the messages to roll in.With those, you will send a few messages back and forth before he invites you for a drink.I’m not the typical “guy” who posts shirtless pictures of himself on dating sites or sends unsolicited pictures of his genitals to random women.
Second, the number of dudes in shirtless photos and less engaging profiles shot way up.After the fall of My Space, I eventually created my Ok Cupid account.I really got into the quizzes that members could take. Ok Cupid prides themselves on the ability to match people based on responses to their surveys.To my surprise, we both have felt frustration in online dating, specifically with these dating sites.I have seen the quality degrade over the years and the only people to blame are ourselves. There hasn’t been a better time to join a dating site, share your interests, provide inputs about your views and find people with the right amount of balance in similar perspectives and differences. However, the majority of people using these sites do not use these features, so the accuracy of the data is weaker.Perhaps my perspective here might help you when seeking your next mate on there (or not). I turned 19 and I was good with finding and meeting prospective dates on there.You were defined by how cool your My Space layout was – animated GIFs, custom CSS and your favorite embedded You Tube video.It is a sad, soul-crushing place where good guys go to die a slow death by way of ignored messages and empty inboxes.You will peruse profiles and find a few women who aren’t posing in a bathroom with their stomachs exposed.I presume the goal is to find a quality, long-term partner. Ultimately, online dating depends on both the communal and each of our individual contributions we make. If you take dating seriously and actually put some thought into it, it is possible that Mr. Dismiss that the reality that you’re dating online — you’re effectively reaching into a larger pool of partners instead of only the ones who show up at your local bar.I tell all my single girlfriends to give online dating a try. Your inbox will fill with notes from 19-year-olds in the ‘burbs, 40-somethings who find your taste in music “refreshing,” addled idiots writing “id fck u,” and a handful of age-appropriate, nice-looking guys who can string some sentences together and like to cook.