some ugly truths we must all be aware of and conquer before we embark on a journey to find “the one.” This is one of the biggest truths about online dating nobody wants to admit.From childhood, men have been brought up to be fierce competitors, to opt for the most risky jobs, to put themselves on the line, to accept rejection “like a man” and to always make the first move.And when 80% of the messages are either, you can’t really blame them for not responding to most messages—even if you personalize your mails.The fact of the matter is that women receive far too much “unwanted” attention.Ideally, you want to use it to complement and augment your existing chances of finding a partner.But what if you don’t have any chances or opportunities in your day to day life?This product of social conditioning rears its ugly head online even more so, as an average of seven men compete for the attention of one woman.According to research, women who send messages to men are twice as likely to receive a response compared to men who start conversations.
It wasn’t the most interesting thing on her profile—that’d be quite sad. You may have similar interested, a compatible personality—you could be everything they are looking for, however even that may not be enough for some people.
It is a well-documented fact that they more money you have, the more attractive people perceive you to be.
This stark increase in interest occurs in both genders, but it is even more prevalent in men. I’m not sharing this story to bash those who are attracted to money or call them out as gold diggers; the point I’m stressing is that your profile shouldn’t include components that will attract the wrong crowd.
The moment I turned the dial to 0k (I don’t earn this much), I received a message. Ahh, no worries, the income stated on my profile is incorrect anyways. Moral of this story: If you earn a lot of money, but you want to find someone who will love you for the qualities you bring to the table first, don’t boast about your income, as you will only attract a leech who isn’t even faintly interested in your character.
Especially when you get rejected countless times, with or without reason.