Step back and ask yourself the following questions, Trespicio suggests: Do I have fun with him? Does he seem genuinely interested in what you have to say? These are likely signs he's in it for real, so enjoy being with him and relax about making things "official." "Men who are wary of commitment want to feel like You don't have to stay in the dark forever, though.
If it's been about six months and he hasn't dropped one hint about where he sees this going, casually speak up, says Jennifer Kelman, a licensed social worker and relationship expert at
When you start dating someone new, the number one thing you start thinking about is probably when you should make your relationship official. Wondering when to start calling that dude you’ve been hooking up with your boyfriend can be super stressful.
If you say it at the wrong time, it can destroy any chance of a future relationship – but the same thing can happen if you wait too long. Well, a recent study done by both Zoosk and revealed something a little bit surprising about when to make things official.
The worst time to do this is in the middle of a fight or in the middle of sex.
When asking your guy what he wants and if he wants to make the relationship official, you just need to be blunt. Just say something like this: “I think we’ve been having a lot of fun these past few weeks and I really like you. If the guy says he has no interest in being serious, he means it.
This will give you both time to get to know each other and to figure out if you’d like to be in a relationship together.
It will also give you time to get more comfortable to talk to him about it. I know that starting this conversation with a dude can be awkward, uncomfortable and completely nerve-wracking. I’ve done it a million times and let me just tell you guys something: I am really shy.
This guy enjoys spending time with you (and not just in the deep of the night). Women are usually much more chatty with their friends about their new amours. That’s a bit far in the future to be planning, don’t ya think? That movie that comes out at the end of next month? ”), so know that he’s subtly telling you he sees a future with you.
I just want to know what you want out of this relationship? Don’t be like, “Oh, okay, we can be friends with benefits” and secretly hope he’ll change his mind. As much as it sucks, you may need to cut ties with him if things don’t go well.
Are you interested in getting serious or are you not looking for anything like that? Another important thing to keep in mind: going into this, you need to know what you want. Don’t settle for something you don’t want just to be with him in some way!
But you’ve been together a while now, so you should see not only has he told people about you, but he also wants you to meet them. He’s agreed to have brunch with your sister and her five kids, or go on a double date with your bestie. Whatever that shared interest is, you and he love engaging in thought-provoking dialogue. He challenges you to think, learn, and argue (but in a fun way).
If he’s your boyfriend, it means your affection for him is reciprocated. It means maybe, just maybe, love could be around the corner. So to be honest, he probably didn’t tell many (or any) people about your first date. Likewise, he’s eager to meet those that matter to you.