Fear that she might take advantage of him (and you want to protect him from that.) While these are all legitimate fears, remember that they are your fears and therefore your responsibility in terms of handling them.The fact is that just about any high-quality guy out there is going to have ex-girlfriends. You may not mind some of his ex’s and other ex’s you may absolutely hate.Playing detective or trying to control the other person to prevent them from being able to contact someone is just going to fill that person with resentment and will drain you of energy you could put towards better things… Seriously meditate on this thought: People are going to do whatever they want to do.No amount of trying to control them, or to “guilt” them, or to reason with them, or to commit to them, etc. Of course your actions matter, but what I’m saying here is that in the end, you can’t control the other person and even if you were able to, it’s much better to know that the other person is going to be the way you want them to be without you having to expend energy on “controlling” them. I stopped trying to be perfect and control everything so I could feel OK.He lent her a sum of money in the past which I think she still hasn’t paid back which could be a factor.I feel that by keeping her in his life, he is being slightly disrespectful to me, as she clearly still has some kind of hold over him for him to put up with this.
Frankly, people are going to do whatever they want to do anyway.
She sends him nasty texts saying he is forgetting his friends if he hasn’t seen her for a while, posts catty comments on his Facebook page, yet he still won’t cut her off.
He says it is easier to remain friends with her than not to, but I personally won’t surround myself with people who are so toxic.
And there’s no “relationship law” that says you should like them.
Generally speaking, though, when you have a relationship with someone, you consider it your relationship with that other person.