Likewise, don't grill your boyfriend on what went wrong or insist that he account for his behavior throughout the entire time they dated.Their relationship is between them; it's not your cautionary tale or your soap opera. It's easier, of course, to have hard-line rules — "exes are never OK" versus "exes are totally fine" — but that's not the world we live in.No matter what his answer is, it's going to make things weird.Besides, comparing yourself to anybody — even if you come out ahead — is going to lead to feeling crappy, because basing your self-esteem on where you stand relative to someone else is Not Healthy.So don't seek out comparisons, and if your dude brings up the topic, tell him you're not interested in hearing it.You and your friend are not in competition, except when you're actually playing Scrabble.5. Don't try to keep your boyfriend and your bud from associating because you're afraid they still have feelings for each other, and don't constantly seek reassurance that that's not the case.
This goes for friends and partners who haven't dated, too, now that I think of it.
We know our backstories will be tangled and intertwined.
I can count the degrees of hookup separation between my closest friends and myself, and usually come up with no more than two or three.
Set aside time for each of them and honor it — don't drag your lover along on girls' night out (not even if your lover is a lady; queer chicks are 4. Don't ask your man if you're prettier/smarter/better at Scrabble than his last girlfriend.
Don't do this ever, but especially not if his last girlfriend is the person you're going rock climbing with Sunday.