You should expect someone to stop dating other people when the other person tells you they have stopped dating other people.You of course, have the option to stop dating other people sooner if that feels right to you, but it does not obligate them to do the same.If you intend on sleeping with someone, then you need to clearly communicate what your expectations are and stick to your own values.If you are not on the same page with your partner it is best to wait or move on.You're incapable of fully investing in the relationship you're now in when you keep part of yourself available to other people.Instead, you're constantly reassuring yourself other people are out there just in case -- and you might even be casting harsher judgment on the person you're with, looking for things to be wrong or not diving in to repair issues as they arise.This prevents either of you from acting like a crazy person by spying on the other, accidentally discovering an active account like my friend Heidi did, or jumping to conclusions about the state of your relationship.We could speculate day and night, but the reality of it is that we often don't know where the other person stands unless we ask.
They've also already taken weekend trips away to Arizona and Montreal without killing each other; and this honeymoon phase has been nonstop bliss for Heidi. On the couple's Arizona excursion, Heidi’s new beau asked her to get some directions on his phone.Of course, my professional advice from the get-go would have been to roll the dating app talk into the "are we exclusive" convo so all bases were covered before these two went away together.Doing so would have prevented Heidi from feeling blindsided -- either because her boyfriend would have already deleted the app(s) in question, or because she would have had a clear sense of where they were in their relationship so she could deal with the inconsistency appropriately and with clear boundaries. And in this fast-paced, competitive meat market, a missed opportunity might never be available again.Then when things don't work out, you pat yourself on the back for not deleting those dating apps.Little does your subconscious realize, you sabotaged the relationship from the get-go by not immersing yourself fully in this new person.In her mind, the case was closed -- and the two are still happily together.By being so direct, Heidi saved herself the torture of spending the rest of her vacation in her own head, trying to figure out what was in his. (Edith Piaf)A major requirement in Romantic Ideology is that love should be exclusive.Romantic love must be exclusive and limited in scope, as it requires much of our resources.But here's the rub: It's not so easy to know when that moment exactly happens.And compounding the question is the issue of when/if your new significant other is also dropping out of the dating game -- and how to handle it if you figure out they haven't. My friend Heidi met a guy several months ago on Hinge.