Incidentally, one of her friends visited us and hinted that my wife is “not as simple as she pretends to be”. That kind of probing is guaranteed to make any relationship worse.As of today I’ve planned to post questions about her past relationship(s) in the confessions page of her school. However, there’s another aspect to this in your case.I’d expressed intentions of joining Facebook and connecting with her batch mates in the hope of finding out about her past and whether she had sex before marriage. Normally I would tell you to close your eyes, take a deep breath and let it go.She vehemently opposed this and refused to give away even the names of her classmates. In spite of what all this might suggest, I love her. Usually you achieve nothing by finding out the details of your spouse’s sex-life before he/she met you.So to answer your question, I don’t think this guy is a screwball at all.
Whenever I ask her anything about this she gives vague replies, urging me to move on and look at the future instead of the past. This disturbed me deeply and we’ve had innumerable discussions about this since then. Recently others in the family eavesdropped on us and unfortunately managed to listen in on some of our private conversations regarding this issue, i.e. This was deeply humiliating and painful for both of us. At a very early stage I’d started suspecting that my wife had had sex before marriage.Hence it’s your responsibility to make sure she doesn’t receive unwarranted treatment from them.You have to make it very clear to your parents and the rest of your family that you and your wife respect them and have responsibilities towards them, but your private life is yours.basics like how many past relationships she’s been in, how many of them she’s had sex with and who was the last. At the same time you must promise (her and yourself) never to entertain these advances from outsiders. Coming to the question of your parents’ reaction – you should remember that your wife is living with your parents.It’s she who’s moved to a new home and made a new family her own, not them.And their interference in it is entirely unwelcome.Spouses might have the right to ask each other private questions.That always results in the guy becoming more withdrawn.After all, why would he want to commit himself more to a girl who’s nagging him already, right at the beginning of a relationship!