Our theory on commitment was that it evolves slowly, long after exclusivity.
Essentially, commitment (in our guy opinion) is a juiced-up exclusive relationship.
The other day my sister and her husband (Jake) and I were discussing "exclusive" versus "committed."Of course, we guys had a different opinion than my sister.
My little sister took the stance that exclusivity and commitment were the same.
The example Jake and I used was:"If I'm committed, I'm picking your dad up from the airport."Commitment is when lives are intertwined so much that your lives become one unified life.
It's the reason that my recently married friend suddenly had a calendar that he and his wife kept in Google that I had to check in order to make plans with him-their lives had become that intertwined.
People who are in relationships are trying to lock it down and have thrown most of their concerns out the window.
Usually there's some episode(someone gets tired of the other dating other people), or a moment (you sit down and talk about it) where you agree that you will be exclusive.
She theorized that once you've told someone you want to date them exclusively, you are committed to only them.
You've made a commitment to be faithful,to put energy in only that relationship.
Do you agree with me that commitment and exclusivity are different? Is it yet another difference in how men and women think?
You don't just meet someone and automatically become their significant other. In fact, there is a big difference between being exclusive and being in a relationship, though sometimes, it can be hard to identify. You'll go on a first date, and if there's chemistry, you'll go on more.