I dabbled in it a little—after all, there were only so many horribly blind dates I could go on before taking matters into my own hands—but on my first go, I met my ex's roommate, and then my ex, and the rest is history.
After getting separated, I realized the only way I was going to meet a date in a world that seemed filled with married couples having children was to go online. In the quiet, lonely hours after the kids went to bed, I could message a friendly face or chat with a fellow single parent.
If you're not someone who's really comfortable or familiar with children, don't pretend to be!
If he's a keeper, he'll be patient with you and let you get to know his kids at your own speed. They'll probably be able to tell you're trying too hard.
What I'm trying to say is this: Prioritize the things that are important to you in a relationship, and then keep those in mind.
It's good to hold the guy you're dating, single parent or not, to high standards—he should treat you well and make you feel good about yourself, yet it's not good to throw away a healthy relationship because you expect to have a monopoly on his free time or expect his kids to adore you immediately.
Rule #1: Be Realistic You might be used to someone who only has you to spend his time and money on, but with a single dad, the situation will be very different. Try not to be too upset if he can't afford to take you on extravagant dates or he has to cancel because his daughter got sick.
Before I was married, I met men the old fashioned way: at bars and through friends.
When I met my ex, online dating was in its infancy.
Just know that it's a normal response, so try to get through it.
Rule #6: You May Have Different Ideas About the Future Whether or not you're a single parent yourself, the two of you may have conflicting opinions about cohabitation, marriage, and future children.