Some said that they used text messaging because they didn’t want to see their former partner hurt, while others wished to avoid facing anger or physical retaliation.
As mobile devices have made it easy to check in from a wide range of locations throughout the day, many teens now want to communicate with their romantic partner on a daily – and in some cases, hourly – basis. Or somebody’s like ‘I miss you.’ [And then she asks] ‘Who is this girl?
I don’t know about other people, but for me, like, I personally hate hurting people and seeing them getting sad because of something I did to hurt them. So I guess that’s why lots of people just keep it to text.
So for me, I mean, I know it’s not the best thing, but usually over text I just ... And usually breaking up is really a hard thing for me. I still feel bad about it, but usually texting is just better for me. They don’t have to deal with, like, seeing the person’s face when they break up with them.
It was relatively rare for teens in our focus groups to talk about meeting romantic partners online. These interactions have their own unwritten – but widely understood – rules.
Some teens explained that they would not trust someone they met online because of the likelihood of misrepresentation, while others were generally distrustful of all strangers online. I was dating this girl that I met through a social website that probably hardly anybody knows about. Everything from one’s choice of emoji to the spelling of the word “hey” can carry a deeper meaning.