One night that stands out in particular: I was at the Satellite Room in Washington with a few friends, chatting with a friend of a friend of a friend who was cute and seemingly single. I should be making the most of my time and talking to as many people as possible, right?
So I left a perfectly good conversation prematurely to strike up a new conversation with someone else who caught my eye nearby.
In their new book “This Is Why You’re Single,” they pose the rhetorical question: “Would you say, ‘No, I’m going to sit home and focus on not meeting someone so that I can eventually meet someone’? Like any night in, some of them are restorative and some are boring.
In my three months off the apps, I experienced both.
I wanted to take advantage of cool connections I was making in real life as I was making them, rather than hoping to run into the person again virtually.
) and confusing (wait, did I tell you this crazy-funny story from my weekend, or was that someone else? While it didn’t work out with this Bumble guy, I was able to focus on how I felt around him without constantly comparing him to other people popping up on my phone.
 Pro: No tedious and often dead-end conversations with matches.
Online dating involves a lot of time and effort that can feel like wasted energy but is just part of the search.
I didn’t miss this at all: I wasn’t spending time on conversations that fizzled or making plans that were eventually canceled, two of my biggest pet peeves about online dating. Which is another way of saying I didn’t go on many dates, period.