She attests to find me attractive still, but she just doesn’t feel the desire for sex anymore.Waxing a little selfish, this leaves me in the lurch as a healthy 40 year old male who loves his wife, finds her completely desirable and desperately wants to consumate that love…But while that solves their problem temporarily, it creates its own new problems. I told him I was going to frame that stupid azz quote. I can make him do it by demanding it and telling him exactly what to do, but after being rejected a few times, I am tired of doing that.If medical issues have been ruled out and your spouse won’t make any effort to help bring desire and sex back into the marriage when you lovingly and honestly express your needs, well, that’s telling you There’s no easy answer for the unhappy and sexless masses if they don’t want to divorce except to turn their marriage into a parenting marriage, if there are young kids at home, or an open or monogamish marriage. Interested in creating a specific kind of marriage? His sexual needs always came first and this attitude caused me a lot of damage emotionally. It has been 3 weeks since he has initiated anything sexual. I have given up and I am currently very emotional about it. I don’t want to go back to struggling alone, so I am just going to cheat if the opportunity presents itself.
This isn’t what I signed on for, but the phrase for better or worse still means something to me.
Love or arranged - marriage involves compromise and understanding.
The other answers hit on an important point - divorce rates are also an indicator of gender freedom.
Often time it also involves external factors (parents, children, society) with their own /-.
In short, all marriages are bound to suck without an adequate foundation of compromise and support.