Whether you can find someone in your friend group, through social networking or even just watching relevant You Tube videos, hearing from people who have been where you are can serve as emotional support.
I waffled on changing my name — it felt really difficult for me, like I was letting go of my Indian heritage.
Ultimately I decided against it, and my husband was supportive of my decision.
Would it have been different if my husband were Indian? “In the past few years, I’ve been needing more connection with my culture, I listen to more Latin music now, I watch movies in Spanish — I need those touchstones now, in a way I didn’t before,” said Alejandra Ramos, a TODAY Tastemaker who is Puerto Rican and has been married to a Ukranian-born Jewish man for seven years.
“African-American people have different perspectives; some may support Black Lives Matter, and others don’t. To be honest, I just assumed that deep down, he and his family were probably racist.
While it was a defense mechanism for me, it wasn't fair that I didn't allow him a clean slate.
We're so "old" according to our cultures, that our families were just thankful someone of the human race agreed to marry either of us, and we currently live in a diverse section of New York City where no one bats an eye at interracial couples.
I wish we could be all kumbaya-we’re-all-human-beings-love-is-love, but in this current cultural and political climate, race is not something you can pretend you don’t see. (I am looking for male and female friends.) I also have a special place in ? (Even though to the eye, I'm black.) I can tend to be shy at first, but will come out once I get to know you.At least that’s what the experts tell me; I’ve only been married seven months, so what do I know?Here are a few things I've learned: Your relationship needs to be tight enough not to let naysayers, societal pressure and family opinions wedge you apart, explained Stuart Fensterheim, a couples counselor based in Scottsdale, Arizona, and host of The Couples Expert podcast.Have you dated interracially before and if so, how did your family react?” My husband and I were friends before we started dating, and we just organically ended up having these conversations."Just like you’d ask a partner about their views on marriage, children and where to live, you should also understand their approach to racial issues.One way to begin, in the process of getting to know a new partner, is to maybe include some questions like, was the school you went to diverse, do you have diverse friends?When you marry someone, you marry everything that made them who they are, including their culture and race.While marrying someone of a different race can have added challenges, if you go in with your eyes and heart wide open, you can face those challenges together and come out stronger.